My mother used to say "this is going to hurt me more than it hurts you" right before a spanking. Her swats were swift and stung, but she always hugged me afterward. I never understood that until I had to hand out my first swat. :/ my father never spanked me (that I can remember), even though I'm sure I deserved it many many times. All he had to do was tell me how disappointed in me he was and I felt like a total failure. I can even remember avoiding him at all costs in my teen years when I knew he was going to have a "talk" with me. (I could tell how serious the talk was going to be based on how he mowed the yard...riding mower = gonna be ok, push mower= uh oh I'm dead).
Different parents have different parenting styles, different ages require different tactics, and difference kids respond differently to each tactic, parent and style. I have 4 VERY different kiddos with wry different personalities. I am by no means a pro, but I try my hardest to rear kind, respectful and self sufficient children.i feel strongly that children need structure an chores and accountability. So, that being said, here I go!
The last 24 hours have been full of situations that required me to be "mean."
Laine has quite a temper. When she doesn't get her way she can really flip out. Screaming, shaking and throwing a real fit. Last night and this morning she had these fits... The consequences?? Time out... This occurs in her bed as it is the only place the monkey can be contained. This seems to work, for now, but I'm sure that will come to an end. She gets hugs and kisses after time out. Landon, he's a much easier one, usually. Normally a time out works, and he occasionally gets a swat. Today he got a swat:( he was refusing to get dressed, eat, listen, just about anything he was asked to do he said no. Post swat, he got a huge hug and an "I love you" he responded with "now I know you don't love me." This made me so sad. I'm hoping after school he and I can have a few moments just us. Angelynn, oh Angelynn. She is as stubborn as they come. She has a mean mouth on her when she is mad. Last night she got caught playing game boy and listenin to her iPod after bed, (they got confiscated), she was snotty this morning and had to be forced to take her morning medicine, (7 days of no electronics) and she refused to do her tidying and left er flat iron on when she left (no idea what I will do abt those when she gets home.) so, I hugged and kissed her goodby and told her I love her. She still was seething over her lost privileges.
Man! These kids! Thankfully since then it has been a calm day. Laine played on the trampoline with me, I folded and put away 3 baskets of clothes, swept and mopped the kitchen an bathroom and snuggled Benny. Laine says " I sick o you mama" " kiss mine Owie", so I think it is nap time:) boy do I need it!
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